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# [[Invitation to play]]
An invitation to play is a request for another person to engage with us authentically in a [[Play]]ful way. It is a way of soliciting [[Consent]] for any interaction: between people or between people and machines.
## Elements of a good invitation
- It occurs before any interaction.
- It includes an acknowledgment of, request for clarification on, the invitee's needs.
- It offers a clear statement of the inviter's needs.
- It can be refused [[Psychological safety|safely]] and without consequences.
- It is persuasive.
## Examples of invitations to play
- In [[Design]], an invitation to play could take the shape of an appealingly designed interface.
- In [[Work|Careers]], a job interview could be an invitation to play.
- In [[Relationships]] and [[Sex]], [[Seduction]] or [[Flirtation]] are invitations to play.
[^fulmen]: Fulmen, A. (2016). *The heart of dominance: A guide to practicing consensual dominance.* [[The Heart of Dominance|My highlights]].