# Are You an Over-Giver?  URL:: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/isnt-what-i-expected/201403/are-you-over-giver-1 Author:: Devon Frye ## Highlights > *Over-giving*, on the other hand, is not the ultimate form of selflessness. Instead, it essentially comes from an inability to receive. That means you give, give, give because you think (or hope) it will be appreciated, or because it makes you feel good about yourself, or because you feel morally obligated to. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01hma7dvedqmcb38sf31xmdc96)) > Consider the following points to help you determine whether you might be giving too much: > 1. It feels so good and important for you to be the giver in almost every relationship. > 2. You feel guilty when someone gives something to you. > 3. You put the needs of others before your own. > 4. You [apologize](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/forgiveness) excessively if you are not able to “give” the way you would like to. > 5. You avoid or are uncomfortable at the thought of asking for something. > 6. You have considered the possibility that your giving could be the result of some insecurity. > 7. You find that you give because you want to feel loved, liked, or admired. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01hma7ebmmwr0nm62hz36vjdqx)) --- Title: Are You an Over-Giver? Author: Devon Frye Tags: readwise, articles date: 2024-01-30 --- # Are You an Over-Giver?  URL:: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/isnt-what-i-expected/201403/are-you-over-giver-1 Author:: Devon Frye ## AI-Generated Summary People who give till it hurts often end up hurt. ## Highlights > *Over-giving*, on the other hand, is not the ultimate form of selflessness. Instead, it essentially comes from an inability to receive. That means you give, give, give because you think (or hope) it will be appreciated, or because it makes you feel good about yourself, or because you feel morally obligated to. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01hma7dvedqmcb38sf31xmdc96)) > Consider the following points to help you determine whether you might be giving too much: > 1. It feels so good and important for you to be the giver in almost every relationship. > 2. You feel guilty when someone gives something to you. > 3. You put the needs of others before your own. > 4. You [apologize](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/forgiveness) excessively if you are not able to “give” the way you would like to. > 5. You avoid or are uncomfortable at the thought of asking for something. > 6. You have considered the possibility that your giving could be the result of some insecurity. > 7. You find that you give because you want to feel loved, liked, or admired. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01hma7ebmmwr0nm62hz36vjdqx))