# The Jealousy Workbook  Author:: Kathy Labriola  ## AI-Generated Summary None ## Highlights ### PART ONE Understanding Your Jealousy #### Chapter One: Is an open relationship right for you? #### Chapter Two: Identifying and grieving your losses in an open relationship #### Chapter Three: Understanding your jealousy #### Chapter Four: What triggers your jealousy? #### Chapter Five: Freud’s Jealousy Nightmare Scenario > Sigmund Freud is famous for inventing psychoanalysis, but he also had some very useful insights into jealousy and why it can be so painful and overwhelming. He described what he called the four major components of jealousy, a nightmarish combination of experiences that he believed occurred sequentially: First, we experience grief, the terrible pain of actually losing or being afraid of losing someone we love. Next, we are flooded with the very distressing realization that we cannot have everything we want in life, and that we may lose our precious relationship or some valued component of the relationship. Then we are gripped with feelings of enmity towards the successful rival who has won the love of our partner or who we fear will succeed in stealing our partner. ([Location 490](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B00FJGNVG0&location=490)) > Last, we turn our anger on ourselves in a belief that our own inadequacies as a partner will cause our partner to leave us. We fear that we are inferior to a rival and that we will lose our lover, and that we deserve to be abandoned for a “better” partner. ([Location 499](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B00FJGNVG0&location=499)) #### Chapter Six: Is your jealousy rational? > This chapter will help you discover whether your jealousy is rational, or whether perhaps you are overreacting or your imagination is running away with you. This exercise is called “The Jealousy Filter,” because you are screening your jealousy by being a detective and asking yourself four questions to clarify the basis for your jealousy. For your jealousy to be firmly founded on a realistic fear of some type of loss, all four of these prerequisites must be true. ([Location 600](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B00FJGNVG0&location=600)) ### PART TWO: Effective Interventions for Jealousy #### Chapter Seven: Your jealousy pie chart #### Chapter Eight: How to manage the fear, anger, and sadness of jealousy