# 215 - The Science of Jealousy  URL:: https://share.snipd.com/episode/5ccd9eb4-5409-4782-89f2-377bb16f3ca9 Author:: Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships  ## AI-Generated Summary None ## Highlights > **Relatable Envy** > - We tend to feel more envious of those similar to us but slightly better off. > - This is because our envy correlates with how relatable or attainable we perceive their situation to be. > Transcript: > Speaker 3 > One of those findings is that we tend to be more envious or jealous of someone who's similar to us, but doing a little bit better. So like rather than someone who's doing like way, way better than us. So if we have a neighbor or a friend or someone out there who's doing, you know, slightly better than we are in their, I don't know, in their job, like they're making a little bit more money Than we are, then we tend to be more jealous of them than we would be if someone like Bill Gates or Jeff Bezos. > Speaker 1 > Yeah. Right. > Speaker 3 > So our sense of envy and jealousy correlates to how relatable or attainable we feel that the other person's situation is. ([Time 0:38:40](https://share.snipd.com/snip/645b19dd-2e2f-4b96-89ad-e05fc0cfc10e))