# 365 - Heartbreak and Recovery  URL:: https://share.snipd.com/episode/f3d8783d-aff0-4cc3-b151-84dcb532f7b4 Author:: Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships  ## AI-Generated Summary None ## Highlights > Self-care analogy: Being sick > Summary: > In dealing with a challenging situation, it can be helpful to treat oneself as if they were sick, like with severe food poisoning, especially in the initial stages of coping with the issue. > Transcript: > Speaker 1 > The way that's been helpful for me to think about this is especially in the very early days of dealing with this was to just think about being sick and to treat myself like I was actually Sick. Like I'd gotten really bad food poisoning. ([Time 0:37:44](https://share.snipd.com/snip/e608f3fd-b35c-461d-b651-5847bce099c3)) > Tea Time for Grief > Summary: > Creating a ritual of taking time to address and sit with grief can be beneficial. > Through practices like 'taking grief to tea,' individuals can set aside a designated time to acknowledge and process their emotions, providing a contained space to reflect and move forward with their day. > Transcript: > Speaker 1 > One of my therapists that I've been consulting with recently introduced me to this concept of taking grief to tea is what he called it. And it was kind of this idea of setting aside time for yourself maybe once a day or once a week where it's like, I'm going to take my grief to tea right now. So I'm going to make myself a cup of tea and I'm going to sit there and I'm going to sit with my grief during that time. And then I'm going to finish my tea and then I'm going to move on with my day. And that's just kind of one example of a little ritual that I think that you can do for yourself to kind of create a little bit of a container around this. ([Time 0:57:56](https://share.snipd.com/snip/7a28c648-df54-42bd-8412-5e87131cb38a)) > Creating Emotional Containers > Summary: > Creating emotional containers can help individuals process their biggest feelings. > It can involve activities like crying, raging, punching a pillow, dancing, or screaming as a way to express and release emotions. Establishing rituals on a micro and macro level, such as setting time for moving through emotions or honoring the end of a relationship, can be beneficial for personal healing and growth. > Transcript: > Speaker 1 > My personal therapist also kind of introduced this concept of building a fire ring. She talked about how like when you're camping and you want to light a fire, like the first thing you do is you create a ring, you know, you have to contain it in some way. And so the idea of giving yourself a container to be able to feel your biggest feelings, whether that's crying or rage or like punching a pillow or dancing it out or screaming it out or Whatever, but like creating a container for yourself to do that, whether it's I'm going to go on a camping trip, which is all about sitting with these feelings, or I'm going to set a timer For 20 minutes and kind of dance it out and just let these feelings move through. These are just like really wonderful rituals that you can do that are kind of on the micro level. You can also look at macro level rituals for like what you want to do to honor the end of the relationship with the completion of a relationship. And I think that's very, very personal to each person. ([Time 0:58:35](https://share.snipd.com/snip/700ec744-5070-4c40-85a8-63923b87d5f9))  ## New highlights added April 21, 2024 at 2:11 PM > Episode AI notes > 1. Treating oneself as if sick can be helpful in coping with a challenging situation, especially in the initial stages of dealing with it > 2. Creating a ritual of taking time to address and sit with grief can aid in processing emotions and moving forward > 3. Establishing emotional containers through activities like crying, raging, or dancing can help individuals express and release emotions for personal healing and growth ([Time 0:00:00](https://share.snipd.com/episode-takeaways/f05da4da-9e7e-422d-9699-6fca4ff83421))