# 462 - Deepening Connections Through Slow Love ![rw-book-cover](https://wsrv.nl/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fmegaphone.imgix.net%2Fpodcasts%2F6c909720-2f0e-11e9-a20c-33258e821e00%2Fimage%2FPodcast_Image_2023__1_.jpg%3Fixlib%3Drails-4.3.1%26max-w%3D3000%26max-h%3D3000%26fit%3Dcrop%26auto%3Dformat%2Ccompress&w=100&h=100) URL:: https://share.snipd.com/episode/cc70826f-e170-4771-a60d-91d1d98a240f Author:: Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships ## AI-Generated Summary None ## Highlights > Slow Love: Extending Pre-Commitment Stages of Love > Summary: > The concept of slow love, as coined by Helen Fisher, refers to a cautious approach where individuals thoroughly understand their partners before committing. > This phenomenon is prevalent among younger couples who fear divorce and prioritize establishing a strong foundation before marriage. The extended pre-commitment stage allows individuals to discern their desires, ensuring that they enter marriage with clarity and confidence. > Transcript: > Speaker 1 > Helen Fisher is the one who says that she coined the term in her book, anatomy of love. And she was on a CBS morning show discussing what this is. And she said, and I quote, slow love is an extension of the pre commitment stages of love. It began to occur to me that it's caution. These people want to know every single thing about a person before they tie the knot. And then she basically said that this was because younger couples are terrified of divorce and want to make sure that they have a solid partnership before legally committing to one Another. She said, so I began to think with this long pre commitment stage, maybe you're learning a lot, you're getting rid of what you don't want. So that by the time you walk down the aisle, you got what you want, you can keep what you want. ([Time 0:10:13](https://share.snipd.com/snip/f434e625-91e8-4014-b050-bae16282444a)) ## New highlights added March 15, 2024 at 12:31 PM > Episode AI notes > 1. Slow love, as coined by Helen Fisher, involves a cautious approach to understand partners before committing. > 2. Younger couples prioritize establishing a strong foundation before marriage through extended pre-commitment stages. > 3. The concept of slow love helps individuals discern their desires, leading to clarity and confidence before marriage. ([Time 0:00:00](https://share.snipd.com/episode-takeaways/21386018-2f81-4c8c-85be-cb6d3ff52ebf))